Separate from Others’ Emotions.
Prevent and Resolve Burnout for Good.
Learn to separate from the emotions of people you serve so you can keep doing the work you love, without the exhaustion, mystery physical issues, or burnout.
People Depend on You
You’re really good at your job, and every day you help people through some of the hardest moments of their lives.
You might be a counselor, therapist, coach, nurse, teacher, caregiver, or healer.
Whatever your role, the people you serve keep coming back because you help them thrive.
But holding space for everyone is burning you out, and it’s getting harder to keep showing up for the work you love.
You find yourself:
Replaying conversations on your drive home
Lying awake thinking about the person who’s struggling most
With a knot in your stomach when certain names come up on your schedule
Struggling Sunday night because you’re already dreading Monday morning
When you get home, there’s nothing left for the people you love.
You stop answering texts, cancel plans, doom scroll on your phone, and sit in silent dark rooms just to recover. Some days you wonder whether you should cut back or leave your field altogether, even though this work is your calling.
You’ve tried the self-care: the baths, the meditation, the boundaries, the white light. And it helps for a while.
But you still carry other people’s pain home with you, you’ve developed mystery symptoms you can’t explain, and you’re losing touch with the person you used to be.
Why Self-Care Doesn’t Cut It
Most approaches to burnout focus on workload, rest, and boundaries. They overlook one simple fact: caring people pick up the emotions of everyone around them.
Your body is wired to mirror the people around you, and you cannot turn this off.
Every conversation, client session, news headline, and social media scroll exposes you to someone else’s experience, and that experience shows up as sensations in your own system.
When those sensations can move through you, your system will reset and you’ll feel fine. But when that sensation lands on a pathway within your own system you’ve learned to shut down, it gets stuck.
All the self-care in the world cannot separate you from other people’s emotions, only self-regulation can do that.
Over time, stuck emotion shows up as exhaustion, mystery physical issues, compassion fatigue, and burnout.
Your 2pm client’s crisis decides the rest of your day. Your week determines your weekend. Others’ trauma becomes your trauma. And you spend all your time outside of work desperately trying to recover.
So you try harder.
You bring your hardest cases to consultation. You see your own therapist. You take the vacation, block off the afternoon, and cut back on clients.
But you still can’t recover.
From Container to Conduit:
Prevent Burnout with Simple Steps For Separation
You can’t stop mirroring the people you serve, and you wouldn’t want to.
Your sensitivity is what makes you so good at your work.
What you can do is learn how mirrored sensation impacts your system, develop self-awareness of where it gets stuck, and master working with clients in ways that naturally set it free. Once it moves, you can see clearly what happened to whom, care about your clients without carrying them home, and feel, think, and act as yourself again.
The Gravity Point® Method empowers you to transform yourself from being a container for your clients to being a conduit.
A container holds everything it takes in until it cracks under the weight. A conduit lets others’ sensations move through it and becomes a channel for healing along the way.
When you become a conduit, you:
End your workday with energy to spare.
Stop replaying hard conversations long after they’ve ended.
Have energy left for your life, so you can enjoy your family, play with your pets, and say yes to plans again.
Take on more cases without dread, because their pain moves through you.
Watch the people you serve evolve more quickly, because you know how to help them own and transform their own pain.
When you become a conduit, the healing you do on your own system naturally helps you guide others in their healing as well.
The That’s Not Mine Online Course
For helping professionals who are ready to thrive in their work again.
You love what you do, but the pain of the people you serve is coming home with you. You’ve tried the self-care, the support, and your own healing work, and you’re still exhausted.
This self-paced, self-guided online course takes you deep into the research on mirroring and the stress response, so you can separate from twenty different qualities of emotion.
You’ll learn a step-by-step practice you can use in any situation: between sessions, after a hard conversation, or lying awake at night.
Each time you use the practice, it does two things at once. It regulates your system in the moment, and it separates you from what isn’t yours. In time, it restores the full range of feeling and flexibility you were born with, so you can keep showing up for the people you serve without losing yourself along the way.
Purchase anytime and get lifetime access to the course.
“It prevented my burnout and made me a more effective therapist.”
I was working with over 30 clients a week, most of them in trauma treatment. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and nearing burnout. This method gave me the tools to release my own emotional blockages, which prevented my burnout and allowed me to be a more effective therapist. Since then, I’ve opened my own practice and completely changed my life.
~Emilee, Licensed Professional Counselor
Hi, I’m Atlas and You’re In the Right Place
Within months of starting my career as a trauma therapist and a university professor teaching and supervising in master’s-level counseling programs, I burned out.
I couldn’t sleep, didn’t eat, and my body was breaking down. Every day, I swung between anxiety and depression no doctor could explain.
I was already doing all the self-care: meditating, journaling, prioritizing alone time, spending time with friends, bubble baths, expensive facials, working out, getting rest, and going to my own therapy sessions.
Self-care didn’t cut it.
After diving into a ton of research and experimenting across thousands of hours with clients, I finally changed three things:
How I thought about emotion, mirroring, and the real physical and mental effects of picking up others’ “stuff”
How I assessed my own system to find where emotion got stuck, and repaired the pathways I’d learned to shut down
How I worked with clients to hand back what was theirs, so they could feel it, move through it, and grow stronger
Once I did this, both my personal and professional lives drastically improved.
Today, I’m a licensed counselor with a PhD in Counselor Education, a coach, a certified yoga instructor and Reiki practitioner, a TEDx speaker, and the creator of the Gravity Point® Paradigm.
Before launching the Institute, across the first decade of my career, I worked as a university professor, supervisor, and curriculum developer for counseling programs at three universities, where I taught this work to graduate students and clinicians in supervision.
Now I teach it to helping professionals of all kinds here at the Institute.
Our world needs its helpers more than ever, and it needs us at our best. My mission is to help you keep doing the work you love for as long as you choose.
Watch the free masterclass and take the first step toward work you love that no longer costs you your health.