Beyond Fight, Flight, and Freeze: The 20 Stress Responses You’ve Never Heard Of

March 03, 2026

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In this episode, Dr. Ashley Anne introduces twenty gravity points: the complete set of stress responses at the heart of the Gravity Point® Model: a completely new paradigm of prevention.

Most of us learn three stress responses: fight, flight, and freeze. Maybe four, if we've encountered fawn. But that's not nearly enough language to describe what's actually happening when we encounter stress.

After years of sitting with clients who needed more precise language and tools to process and heal trauma without shutting down or burning out, Dr. Ashley Anne realized the conventional model wasn't enough. So, over 15 years, she built a new one.

Gravity Point® is a self-awareness framework that identifies twenty distinct stress responses your body-mind-relationship system uses every time it encounters a triggering situation. Ten help you surrender what's beyond your control. Ten help you stabilize and take aligned action.

In any triggering situation, all twenty stress responses activate simultaneously, like an audio equalizer with every channel running at once. Some of these responses will feel familiar. Others might be completely new to you. But all twenty are happening in your system right now, whether you have language for them or not.

In this episode, Dr. Ashley Anne explores:

- Why fight, flight, and freeze were never enough

- What gravity points are

- The 10 surrendering stress responses that help you release what's beyond your control

- The 10 stabilizing stress responses that help you ground and take aligned action

- Why all twenty activate simultaneously in every triggering situation

- The difference between vital stress and vicarious stress, and why it matters for sensitive and empathic people

- Why access to all twenty stress responses is essential for resolving stress before it creates physical disease, mental disorder, and relational discord

This episode is for anyone overwhelmed by what's happening in the world. If you're looking for the education, tools, and resources to process stress, without shutting down or burning out, this is for you.

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Gravity Point® is an educational framework for understanding stress responses. It is not a substitute for medical care, mental health treatment, or therapy.

We respectfully acknowledge that we operate within the unceded ancestral territories of the Nisenan, Southern Maidu, Valley and Plains Miwok, and Patwin Wintun peoples, and the Wilton Rancheria.

Episode Transcript

IF I ASKED YOU TO NAME YOUR STRESS RESPONSES RIGHT NOW
YOU'D PROBABLY SAY SOMETHING LIKE FIGHT
FLIGHT AND FREEZE MAYBE YOU'D ADD FAWN IF YOU'VE BEEN IN THERAPY
OR TEND AND BEFRIEND IF YOU'VE DONE SOME READING
AND YOU'D BE RIGHT
THOSE ARE THE STRESS RESPONSES MOST OF US HAVE LEARNED
BUT IN MY PRACTICE OF SUPPORTING FOLKS IN RESOLVING STRESS AND TRAUMA
I REALIZED A PROBLEM WITH THIS FIGHT
FLIGHT AND FREEZE LIKE EVEN WHEN YOU ADD FAWN
TEND AND BEFRIEND THIS ISN'T NEARLY ENOUGH LANGUAGE TO DESCRIBE
WHAT'S ACTUALLY HAPPENING TO YOU
WHEN YOU RESPOND TO STRESS
LIKE WHEN YOU SCROLL THROUGH THE NEWS AND SEE IMAGES OF VIOLENCE
OR WHEN YOUR KID COMES HOME FROM SCHOOL UPSET
OR WHEN YOUR BOSS SENDS THAT EMAIL
OR WHEN YOU'RE LYING AWAKE AT 3:00AM
WORRYING ABOUT THE STATE OF THE WORLD
AND WHEN YOU ENCOUNTER STRESS
YOUR SYSTEM ISN'T JUST USING ONE RESPONSE AT A TIME
THAT'S WHAT I REALIZED IT'S NOT JUST FIGHT OR FLIGHT OR FREEZE
YOUR BODY MIND
RELATIONSHIP SYSTEM IS ACTUALLY DOING 20 THINGS ALL AT ONCE
TO DIFFERENT DEGREES
AND WITHOUT THE LANGUAGE TO RECOGNIZE AND NAME ALL 20 RESPONSES
YOU CAN'T FULLY RESOLVE THE STRESS TRIGGERED BY A SITUATION
AND WHEN STRESS GETS STUCK
WE GET DYSREGULATED AND IF GIVEN ENOUGH TIME
DYSREGULATION CAN LEAD TO PHYSICAL DISEASE
MENTAL DISORDER AND RELATIONAL DISCORD
SO TODAY
I'M GOING TO GIVE YOU MORE LANGUAGE TO DESCRIBE YOUR STRESS RESPONSES
AND WE'RE GOING TO GO FAR BEYOND FIGHT
FLIGHT AND FREEZE
TO EXPLORE ALL 20 STRESS RESPONSES YOUR SYSTEM USES EVERY SINGLE DAY
WELCOME TO THE GRAVITY POINT PODCAST
I'M YOUR HOST DR ASHLEY ANNE
I USED TO BE A LICENSED TRAUMA THERAPIST AND UNIVERSITY PROFESSOR
BUT EVENTUALLY
I LEFT BOTH BEHIND BECAUSE I REALIZED I DIDN'T WANT TO TREAT ILLNESS
I WANTED TO PREVENT IT
THAT'S WHAT WE'LL EXPLORE TOGETHER ON THIS PODCAST
HOW TO RESOLVE STRESS AND TRAUMA BEFORE IT MAKES YOU SICK
IF YOU WANT TO LEARN THE COMPLETE METHOD TO RESOLVE STRESS AND TRAUMA
IN ANY TRIGGERING SITUATION
CLICK THE LINK IN THE DESCRIPTION
TO DOWNLOAD THE FREE GRAVITY POINT GUIDEBOOK TODAY
OVER THE PAST FEW EPISODES
WE'VE BUILT A REALLY NICE FOUNDATION TOGETHER
YOU KNOW WHAT STRESS ACTUALLY IS
IT'S CHANGE AND THE PRESSURE THAT CHANGE CREATES
YOU ALSO UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN STRESS AND TRAUMA
NOW ONE IS A CYCLE THAT ALLOWS YOU TO STAY INTEGRATED RIGHT
THAT'S THE STRESS RESPONSE CYCLE
AND THE OTHER RESULTS WHEN THAT CYCLE IS INTERRUPTED
SO THERE'S ONE CYCLE AND TWO EXPRESSIONS
AND NOW YOU EVEN KNOW WHY
I SPENT 15 YEARS BUILDING AN ENTIRELY NEW MODEL OF STRESS
AND THAT'S BECAUSE I
FELT THE CONVENTIONAL FRAMEWORK SIMPLY WASN'T ENOUGH
IF YOU HAVEN'T GOT IT
CHANCE TO ACTUALLY REVIEW THE FIRST FOUR EPISODES
AND YOU'RE REALLY INTERESTED IN STRESS AND TRAUMA
YOU MIGHT WANT TO GO BACK AND LISTEN TO THEM
THEY INTRODUCED A LOT OF CONCEPTS
WE'LL BUILD ON AS WE MOVE TOGETHER IN THIS PODCAST
SO IN THIS EPISODE
WE'RE DIVING EVEN DEEPER INTO THE GRAVITY POINT MODEL OF STRESS
TO DISCUSS THE 20 STRESS RESPONSES I DISCOVERED IN MY RESEARCH
WITHIN MY MODEL
EACH STRESS RESPONSE IS ACTUALLY CALLED A GRAVITY POINT
BECAUSE IT FUNCTIONS SORT OF LIKE A POINT OF GRAVITATIONAL FORCE
JUST AS GRAVITY CREATES ORBITS IN SPACE
EACH STRESS RESPONSE CREATES ITS OWN SORT OF CONSTELLATION OF FEELINGS
THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS THAT ORBIT AROUND A CENTRAL THEME
SO FOR EXAMPLE I'LL USE ONE THAT'S FAMILIAR FIGHT
SO FIGHT IS A GRAVITY POINT CENTERED ON THE THEME OF COMMITTING
SO IT ENABLES YOUR BODY TO FEEL CERTAIN SENSATIONS
YOUR MIND TO THINK SPECIFIC THOUGHTS
AND FOR YOU TO TAKE PARTICULAR ACTIONS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
SO THESE FEELINGS THOUGHTS
AND ACTIONS ALL ORBIT
AROUND THAT CORE ENERGY OF COMMITMENT AND STANDING YOUR GROUND
SO THERE ARE 20 GRAVITY POINTS AND THEY CAN BE SPLIT IN HALF
SO 10 OF THESE GRAVITY POINTS HELP YOU SURRENDER
AND RELEASE YOUR GRIP ON ASPECTS OF SITUATIONS
THAT ARE BEYOND YOUR CONTROL
AND THE OTHER TEND
HELP YOU STABILIZE AND RECLAIM CONTROL WHERE YOU CAN
THE THING THAT I'VE OBSERVED FROM THOUSANDS OF HOURS
SITTING WITH CLIENTS AND STUDENTS
IS THAT STRESS RESPONSES DON'T HAPPEN ONE AT A TIME
YOU DON'T JUST FIGHT OR FLEE
OR USE ANY ONE OF THE GRAVITY POINTS IN ANY GIVEN MOMENT
IT'S MORE ACCURATE TO SAY THAT WHEN YOU ENCOUNTER STRESS
ALL 20 GRAVITY POINTS ACTIVATE
TO GIVE YOU THE ENERGY TO RESPOND TO THE SITUATION
AND THEY ACTIVATE TO DIFFERENT DEGREES
DEPENDING ON WHAT THE SITUATION REQUIRES
SO IT'S SORT OF LIKE AN AUDIO EQUALIZER RIGHT
ALL 20 GRAVITY POINTS TURN ON
BUT SOME ARE ACTIVATED AT A HIGH VOLUME
YOU'LL EASILY NOTICE
WHILE OTHERS ARE ACTIVATED AT LIKE LOWER VOLUMES
THAT MAY NOT BE AS EVIDENT
SO THIS IS PART OF THE REASON WHY FIGHT
FLIGHT AND FREEZE WAS NEVER ENOUGH
YOUR SYSTEM IS FAR MORE SOPHISTICATED
NOT ONLY YOU KNOW
MORE SOPHISTICATED THAN HAVING ONLY THREE STRESS RESPONSES
BUT YOUR SYSTEM IS ALSO FAR TOO COMPLEX
TO ONLY BE ACTIVATING ONE AT A TIME
SO TO SHOW YOU HOW THIS WORKS IN THIS EPISODE
I'M GONNA WALK THROUGH
HOW EACH GRAVITY POINT MIGHT SHOW UP IN ONE SCENARIO
SO ALONG THE WAY
YOU'RE GONNA LEARN MORE ABOUT EACH GRAVITY POINT OR STRESS RESPONSE
AND GET A GOOD PICTURE OF THE FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS
JUST GENERALLY ASSOCIATED WITH EACH OF THEM
I INVITE YOU TO REFLECT ON YOUR OWN EXPERIENCES AS WE MOVE ALONG
SO ASK YOURSELF WHICH OF THESE FEEL FAMILIAR TO ME
WHICH ARE A BIT FOREIGN
AND YOU MIGHT ALREADY SEE YOURSELF IN SOMEBODY'S GRAVITY POINTS RIGHT
THEY MIGHT BE REALLY FAMILIAR
BUT SOME OF THEM AGAIN MIGHT FEEL FOREIGN
THERE ARE PROBABLY OTHER POINTS THAT YOU HAVEN'T MET YET
BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T HAD THE LANGUAGE FOR THEM
SO WE'RE GONNA GO THROUGH ALL 20 GRAVITY POINTS
BECAUSE YOU ACTUALLY NEED TO FEEL
THINK AND ACT UPON EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE STRESS RESPONSES
TO FULLY RESOLVE STRESS
PREVENT TRAUMA AND MAINTAIN A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF SELF REGULATION
IN THE PAST LIKE THIS IS KIND OF AN ASIDE
BUT I'VE ALSO CALLED THESE THE 20 FS OF STRESS
BECAUSE WHEN I WAS WRITING THEM OUT
I MADE SURE THAT EACH ONE STARTS WITH F
SO THEY'RE EASIER TO REMEMBER
AND REFERENCE IN YOUR SELF REGULATION PRACTICE
SO AND YOU'LL SEE THAT A LOT IN THE GRAVITY POINT PARADIGM
I LIKE ALLITERATION QUITE A BIT
SO LIKE I MENTIONED
I'M GONNA USE ONE SCENARIO TO ORIENT OUR DISCUSSION TODAY RIGHT
ONE EXAMPLE AND THAT WAY
YOU'LL SEE HOW EACH GRAVITY POINT
CULTIVATES A DIFFERENT QUALITY OF FEELING
AND THINKING AND ACTING LIKE EVEN WITHIN ONE SITUATION
SO HERE'S THE SCENARIO
YOU'RE SCROLLING THROUGH YOUR PHONE
AND YOU SEE FOOTAGE OF SOMETHING DEEPLY DISTURBING
MAYBE IT'S VIOLENCE AGAINST A MARGINALIZED COMMUNITY
MAYBE IT'S ENVIRONMENTAL DESTRUCTION
MAYBE IT'S POLITICAL OPPRESSION
LIKE WHATEVER IT IS
IT'S SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOUR STOMACH DROP AND YOUR CHEST TITAN
AND ONE OF THE THINGS THAT I WANNA STAY CONSCIOUS OF IS THAT
FOR THOSE OF US WHO
ARE JUST VIEWING THESE ATROCITIES ON OUR NEWS FEED
IT'S VERY DIFFERENT THAN EXPERIENCING IT DIRECTLY
SO IF YOU'RE WATCHING THE VIOLENCE HAPPEN
THAT'S VICARIOUS STRESS RIGHT
IT'S A DIFFERENT KIND OF STRESS
BUT WE JUST WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT IT'S A PRIVILEGE
RIGHT FOR US TO OBSERVE IT AND NOT HAVE TO EXPERIENCE IT DIRECTLY
ONE OF THE THINGS I'M CONSCIOUS OF WHEN USING EXAMPLES ON THIS PODCAST
IS TRYING TO KEEP THE SCENARIOS LIGHT HANDED
SO THAT LISTENING TO
THIS DOES NOT HAVE TO BE A RETRAUMATIZING EXPERIENCE
SO THAT'S PART OF THE REASON WHY I'M
USING THIS EXAMPLE OF WITNESSING SOMETHING VERSUS EXPERIENCING IT
BUT AT THE SAME TIME I WANT TO RECOGNIZE THE DISTANCE
SOME OF US HAVE FROM WHAT'S GOING ON RIGHT NOW
NAME IT AS PRIVILEGE AND AT LEAST IN THIS EXAMPLE TODAY
HOPEFULLY INSPIRE THOSE OF US WITH THAT PRIVILEGE
TO USE TOOLS
SO THAT WE CAN ENGAGE IN WHAT'S GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY
SO OKAY
SO THAT'S THE SITUATION YOU WERE SCROLLING THROUGH YOUR NEWS FEED
AND VIEWED A VIDEO OF SOMETHING TERRIBLE RIGHT
AND NOW YOU'RE
YOU'RE IN THAT TRIGGERING SITUATION
CAUSE SEEING THIS FOOTAGE IS TRIGGERING YOUR STRESS RESPONSE CYCLE
AND THIS BEGINS THAT FEEL
THINK ACT FLOW THAT WE TALKED ABOUT IN EARLIER EPISODES WELL
LIKE I'VE BEEN SAYING
EACH OF THE 20 GRAVITY POINTS ACTIVATES DURING A TRIGGERING SITUATION
IT'S NOT ONE AT A TIME AND AT THE SAME TIME
WHEN THEY ALL ACTIVATE
THEY EACH TURN ON THEMES OF SENSATIONS YOU FEEL IN YOUR BODY
STORIES YOU THINK IN YOUR MIND
AND SIGNALS YOU'LL ACT ON IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
SO LET'S INTRODUCE YOU TO EACH OF THESE 20 GRAVITY POINTS
AND HELP YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY MIGHT LOOK LIKE IN RESPONSE TO THIS
PARTICULAR SITUATION
SO FIRST WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT THE 10 SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINTS
THAT ALLOW YOU TO RELEASE CONTROL
OVER ELEMENTS OF A SITUATION THAT YOU CAN'T CONTROL
AND YOU'RE GONNA NOTICE THAT THESE POINTS MAY FEEL VERY PASSIVE
AND THAT'S BECAUSE THEY ARE
THEY ALLOW YOU TO DO THE IMPORTANT WORK OF STOPPING
STEPPING BACK AND RELEASING WHAT YOU CAN'T INFLUENCE
SO THAT ULTIMATELY
YOU CAN MAKE SPACE IN YOUR SYSTEM FOR WHAT YOU ACTUALLY CAN INFLUENCE
AND THAT'S THE STABILIZING GRAVITY POINTS
THAT WE'LL GET TO IN A SECOND
SO THE FIRST GRAVITY POINT WE'LL DISCUSS IS CALLED FAIL
NOW IN OUR CULTURE FAIL HAS KIND OF GOTTEN THIS NEGATIVE CONNOTATION
BUT FAIL IS SO IMPORTANT BECAUSE IT GIVES YOU THE ABILITY TO PAUSE
AND ASSESS WHETHER WHAT YOU'RE DOING IS ACTUALLY WORKING
BECAUSE IT'S PROBABLY NOT RIGHT
SO IN THIS SCENARIO WHEN YOU WERE SCROLLING THROUGH YOUR PHONE AND
WITNESS SOMETHING REALLY AWFUL
MAYBE YOU HAD BEEN TRYING TO STAY INFORMED AND TO BEAR WITNESS
AND TO NOT LOOK AWAY
BUT FAIL IS GONNA CREATE THE IMPULSE TO STOP SCROLLING FOR A SECOND
AND TO TAKE TIME TO ACTUALLY PAUSE AND ASK
IS CONTINUING TO WATCH THIS FOOTAGE HELPING ANYONE
IS IT HELPING ME
IS IT HELPING THE PEOPLE IN THIS VIDEO
OR AM I JUST RETRAUMATIZING AND PARALYZING MYSELF IN THE END
SO FAIL IS THE GRAVITY POINT
THAT'S GONNA GIVE YOU THAT ENERGY
AND THAT ABILITY TO STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING
AND REALLY GIVE YOURSELF
TIME TO EVALUATE WHETHER OR NOT WHAT YOU'RE DOING IS SERVING YOU
ANOTHER GRAVITY POINT IS FOLD
SO FOLD HELPS YOU COMPROMISE
AND ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT'S GENUINELY BEYOND YOUR CONTROL
IT'S SORT OF LIKE FOLDING YOUR CARDS RIGHT
IT'S ABOUT GIVING UP GROUND
SO IN THIS SCENARIO YOU SEE THIS VIOLENCE ON YOUR SCREEN
AND FOLD IS WHAT WILL ALLOW YOU TO RECOGNIZE THE DIFFICULT TRUTH
THAT YOU CANNOT STOP IT FROM HAPPENING
RIGHT NOW YOU CAN'T REACH THROUGH THE SCREEN AND INTERVENE
AND YOU CANNOT
CONTROL WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE DOING AND EXPERIENCING AT THAT MOMENT
SO FOLD GIVES YOU THE ABILITY TO PULL BACK YOUR ENERGY
WHEN YOU REALIZE THAT YOU CANNOT INFLUENCE
THE SITUATION IN THAT MOMENT
SO IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND THAT
IT'S NOT ABOUT GIVING UP FOR GOOD
BUT IT DOES ALLOW YOU TO GIVE UP FOR THAT MOMENT AND THAT MOMENT RIGHT
THAT PAUSE AND THAT COMPROMISE THAT YOU'RE MAKING
THAT'S WHAT ALLOWS YOU TO ACTUALLY ASSESS
WHAT'S IN YOUR ACTUAL SPHERE OF CONTROL
IN LATER GRAVITY POINTS THAT WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT
SO STAYING WITH THE SURRENDER AND GRAVITY POINTS
WE'RE GONNA TALK ABOUT FORFEIT NEXT
SO FORFEIT IS ABOUT RELEASING PHYSICAL TENSION STORED IN YOUR BODY
IT GIVES YOU THE ABILITY TO ELIMINATE BUILT UP ENERGY
SO AS YOU WATCH THE FOOTAGE
YOUR SHOULDERS HAVE PROBABLY CREPT UP TO YOUR EARS
AND YOUR JAW MIGHT BE CLENCHED
YOUR BREATH MIGHT BE REALLY SHALLOW
SO FORFEIT IS GONNA
GENERATE THE IMPULSE AND THE ABILITY TO SHAKE OUT YOUR HANDS
ROLL YOUR SHOULDERS TAKE A DEEP BREATH
IT REALLY ENCOURAGES YOU TO DISCHARGE
SOME OF THE ENERGY THAT'S BUILDING UP
AND DOESN'T HAVE ANYWHERE PRODUCTIVE TO GO
FLEE IS ANOTHER SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINT
AND IT CREATES THE IMPULSE TO PUT SOME DISTANCE RIGHT
BETWEEN YOU AND SOMETHING
TO LITERALLY DEPART FROM A SITUATION
SO IN THIS SCENARIO FLEE MIGHT SHOW UP AS THE URGE TO CLOSE THE APP
TO PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN TO WALK AWAY FROM THE SCREEN
TO CREATE PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL SPACE BETWEEN YOURSELF
AND WHAT YOU'RE WITNESSING
IT'S NOT ABOUT ABANDONMENT
BUT IT'S ABOUT GIVING YOURSELF SPACE
TO KIND OF REORIENT TO WHAT'S GOING ON
SO FLEE RECOGNIZES WHEN STAYING ENGAGED
LIKE
AND STAYING CONNECTED WILL ONLY KEEP YOU STUCK AND MAKE THINGS WORSE
SO IT GENERATES THE ENERGY YOU NEED TO STEP BACK
FROWN IS WHERE YOUR HEART ACTUALLY BREAKS RIGHT
THIS IS A SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINT AND IT'S ALL ABOUT HEARTBREAK
THIS IS THE GRAVITY POINT THAT PROCESSES DISAPPOINTMENT
AND FEELING LET DOWN AND LOSS
SO AS YOU WATCH THE FOOTAGE
FROWN ALLOWS YOU KNOW THE TEARS TO COME UP
IT LET'S THE HEAVINESS SETTLE IN YOUR CHEST
AND IT CREATES SPACE FOR THAT
DEVASTATION ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENING IN THE WORLD
AND THAT CAN REALLY ONLY COME WHEN YOU SLOW DOWN ENOUGH TO REALLY FEEL
HOW TERRIBLE AND DISAPPOINTING
IT IS SO FROWN IS A VERY DIFFICULT GRAVITY POINT
AND A LOT OF US ARE KIND OF TAUGHT TO SKIP OVER IT
BUT IT'S SO IMPORTANT
BECAUSE IT'S THE GRAVITY POINT THAT REMEDIES FRUSTRATION
AND POWERLESSNESS
BECAUSE IT ALLOWS YOU TO ACTUALLY SIT WITH THE DISAPPOINTMENT
SO THAT YOU CAN FREE UP ENERGY
YOU EVENTUALLY USE TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT RIGHT
YOU CAN ONLY REALLY LET GO OF SOMETHING
AND MOURN THE LOSS OF SOMETHING
WHEN YOU'VE STOPPED DOING IT
AND THAT'S WHAT CREATES THE SPACE TO ACTUALLY CHANGE DOWN THE LINE
FLEX IS ANOTHER SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINT
AND IT ALLOWS YOU TO EXAMINE YOUR ORIGINAL INTENTIONS
AND GIVES YOU PERMISSION TO PIVOT WHEN THEY NO LONGER FIT
SO MAYBE YOU STARTED SCROLLING TO STAY INFORMED
OR TO BE A GOOD ALLY OR TO BEAR WITNESS
BUT FLEX CREATES THE LITERAL FLEXIBILITY TO ASK
IS THAT INTENTION SERVING ME RIGHT NOW
IS THAT INTENTION SERVING OTHERS RIGHT NOW
MAYBE I NEED TO PIVOT A LITTLE BIT TO SHIFT DIRECTION
AND CAN I HONOR THE FACT THAT THIS NEEDS TO CHANGE WITHIN MYSELF RIGHT
LIKE MY WHY MY SENSE OF PURPOSE MIGHT NEED TO BE TWEAKED
AND FLEX IS WHAT ALLOWS YOU TO RELEASE THAT INTENTION
SO THAT YOU CAN EVENTUALLY CREATE A NEW ONE THAT BETTER SERVES YOU
AND EVERYONE AROUND YOU
NEXT IS FORSAKE
FORSAKE CREATES HEALTHY HESITATION WHEN SOMETHING DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT
SO IT HELPS YOU NOTICE WHAT FEELS OFF OR MISALIGNED WITH YOUR TRUTH
SO FORSAKE HAS A LOT TO DO WITH WHAT WE EXPRESS
SO AS YOU WATCH FOOTAGE
FORSAKE IS GONNA HELP YOU KIND OF BITE YOUR LIP
AND TO PULL BACK YOUR ENERGY
AND TO NOT JUST
YOU KNOW BE UPSET THAT THE VIOLENCE IS HAPPENING
BUT TO RECOGNIZE THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO CONTRIBUTE TO IT ANYMORE
SO FORSAKE IS SORT OF LIKE TURNING YOUR HEAD AWAY FROM IT
AND BEING LIKE NO
I'M PULLING MY ENERGY THIS DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT
SO
THIS IS WHAT HELPS YOU RECOGNIZE THAT THE WORLD IS OPERATING IN A WAY
THAT FEELS FUNDAMENTALLY MISALIGNED WITH WHO YOU ARE
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY
FORSAKE IS WHAT LETS YOU KNOW THAT YOU WANNA SHOW UP DIFFERENTLY RIGHT
YOU'RE GONNA STOP PARTICIPATING FOR A LITTLE BIT
YOU'RE GONNA STOP EXPRESSING
STOP TALKING ABOUT IT PULL BACK AND HESITATE
SO THAT YOU CAN SORT OF CREATE SPACE
AND RECOGNIZE THAT WHAT'S GOING ON DOESN'T RESONATE
AND YOU'RE NOT GOING TO CONTRIBUTE ANY MORE ENERGY TO IT FROM THERE
FLATTEN
IS A GRAVITY POINT THAT ACTUALLY HELPS YOU BROADEN YOUR PERSPECTIVE
SO THIS IS ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING AT
WHAT YOU SEE WHAT YOU PAY ATTENTION TO
AND FLATTEN IS WHAT ALLOWS YOU TO SEE A BIGGER PICTURE
INSTEAD OF SAYING FIXATED ON ONE PIECE OF INFORMATION
SO WHILE YOU'RE FOCUSING ON THIS ONE PIECE OF FOOTAGE
FLATTEN PULLS YOUR AWARENESS BACK
IT HELPS YOU SEE THAT THIS IS ONE MOMENT AND ONE EVENT
IT HELPS YOU ASK RIGHT
LIKE HOW DOES THIS FIT INTO THE LARGER CONTEXT
WHAT ELSE IS TRUE WHAT AM I NOT SEEING WHILE I'M FIXATED HERE
SO FLATTEN ENABLES YOU TO PULL YOUR ATTENTION AWAY FROM SOMETHING
SO THAT YOU CAN EVENTUALLY DEVELOP A BETTER
BROADER UNDERSTANDING AND A BIGGER PERSPECTIVE
WHICH OFTEN DOWN THE LINE
AS YOU ACTIVATE MORE GRAVITY POINTS THAT ARE STABILIZING
IS GONNA HELP YOU MAKE BETTER DECISIONS ABOUT HOW TO ACTUALLY ENGAGE
FASCINATE IS ANOTHER GRAVITY POINT AND IT'S ALL ABOUT SURRENDERING
RIGHT AND IT ALLOWS YOU TO EMBRACE UNCERTAINTY
AND RELEASE THE COMPULSION TO FIGURE EVERYTHING OUT RIGHT NOW
SO IT ALLOWS YOU TO NOT KNOW
SO
IN THE SCENARIO WHERE YOU'RE WATCHING SOMETHING VIOLENT AND TERRIBLE
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN NEXT
YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO FIX IT
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE RIGHT ACTION IS
SO FASCINATE IS WHAT LETS YOU PULL BACK AND SORT OF BE LIKE
I DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS
I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S HAPPENING
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO AND IT LETS YOU SIT WITH THAT NOT KNOWING
RIGHT
THOSE SENSATIONS AND THOSE STORIES AND THOSE SIGNALS WITHOUT SPIRALING
IT GIVES YOU THE ABILITY TO FEEL OKAY WITH INCOMPLETE INFORMATION
RATHER THAN RUSHING IN AND FILLING THE GAPS IN AN UNHELPFUL WAY
FINALLY FADE IS THE LAST SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINT
SO FADE
CREATES COMPLETE DETACHMENT
AND SURRENDER TO SOMETHING LARGER THAN YOURSELF
THIS IS THE GRAVITY POINT THAT SAYS I RELEASE THIS TO THE UNIVERSE
TO GOD TO THE COLLECTIVE
TO ALLAH TO NATURE
TO WHATEVER HIGHER POWER I UNDERSTAND
FADE IS WHAT ALLOWS YOU TO SAY
I CAN'T CARRY THIS ALONE RIGHT NOW
SO I'M GONNA SET IT DOWN AND RELEASE IT FOR THE MOMENT
SO FADE IS THE FINAL SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINT
BECAUSE IT KIND OF COMPLETES THAT RELEASE OF CONTROL
THOSE ARE THE 10 SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINTS
THOSE ARE THE ONES THAT RELEASE THAT CONTROL AND LET GO OF IT
AND THEY CREATE SPACE RIGHT
SO WE'RE GONNA MOVE ON NOW TO THE 10 STABILIZING GRAVITY POINTS
AND THESE ARE THE ONES THAT HELP YOU GROUND ENERGY AND RECLAIM
YOUR ABILITY TO ACT SO
YOU'RE GONNA NOTICE
THAT THESE NEXT 10 ARE GONNA FEEL MUCH MORE ACTIVE
MORE ENGAGED AND THAT'S BECAUSE THEY ARE
THEY REALLY HELP YOU CLARIFY WHAT YOU WANT
IDENTIFY WHAT'S POSSIBLE AND TAKE ALIGNED ACTION
SO THE SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINTS PROBABLY FEEL A LITTLE
I DON'T KNOW FOR ME
I KIND OF THINK OF THEM AS LIKE VERY PASSIVE AND SORT OF LIKE
WELL WHAT'S THE POINT
BUT THE SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINTS ARE SO NECESSARY
BECAUSE YOUR SYSTEM YOUR BODY MIND RELATIONSHIP SYSTEM
THE CAPACITY YOU HAVE IS CONSTANTLY EXPANDING
BUT IT IS FINITE RIGHT
YOUR BODY ONLY HAS ENOUGH CHEMISTRY AND ENERGY
AND ELECTRICITY TO MANAGE A CERTAIN AMOUNT
OF STUFF RIGHT
SO WHAT THE GRAVITY POINTS THAT ARE SURRENDERING HELP YOU DO
IS IT CLEARS OUT THE ENERGY
SO THAT YOU CAN THEN FILL THAT SPACE WITH SOMETHING NEW
USING THE STABILIZING GRAVITY POINTS
SO THE SURRENDERING GRAVITY POINTS CREATE THAT SPACE
AND THE STABILIZING GRAVITY POINTS ALLOW YOU TO FILL THAT SPACE
WITH SOMETHING NEW SO LET'S GO THROUGH THOSE
NOW
THE FIRST STABILIZING GRAVITY POINT WE'LL TALK ABOUT IS FANTASIZE
AND IT CONNECTS YOU TO WHAT YOU DEEPLY DESIRE
IT CREATES LONGING RIGHT
AND WISHFUL THINKING
SO AS YOU PROCESS MAYBE THIS DISTURBING FOOTAGE NOW AT THIS POINT
IF YOU'RE FOLLOWING THE GRAVITY POINT METHOD
YOU HAVE ACTUALLY GONE THROUGH ALL THE SURRENDERING POINT
SO NOW YOU'VE GOT A LITTLE BIT OF SPACE
SO NOW FANTASIZE IS GONNA HELP YOU GENERATE A SENSE OF IMAGINATION
TO ASK YOURSELF WHAT DO I ACTUALLY WANNA SEE IN THIS WORLD
WHAT WOULD A FAIR AND JUST WORLD LOOK LIKE
WHAT IS POSSIBLE BESIDES THIS VIOLENCE RIGHT
LIKE WHAT ELSE CAN WE DO
FANTASIZE ISN'T ABOUT WISHFUL THINKING
IT'S ABOUT CONNECTING TO YOUR DEEPEST VALUES AND DESIRES
SO THAT YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE WORKING TOWARD IN THIS WORLD
FORESEE THE NEXT GRAVITY POINT
AND IT CREATES CERTAINTY THROUGH INTUITION RIGHT
SO IT'S THAT GUT FEELING OF KNOWING THAT SOMETHING IS TRUE OR RIGHT
SO MAYBE AFTER WATCHING THIS DISTURBING FOOTAGE
YOU MIGHT FANTASIZE ABOUT ALL KINDS OF RESPONSES RIGHT
LIMITLESS POSSIBILITIES FORESEE
THEN HELPS YOU DISCERN
WHAT FEELS GENUINELY POSSIBLE AND RIGHT IN THIS MOMENT
SO IT'S THE INNER KNOWING THAT SAYS
YOU KNOW
POSTING ABOUT THIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA PROBABLY WON'T CHANGE ANYTHING
BUT DONATING TO A SPECIFIC ORGANIZATION MIGHT ACTUALLY HELP
OR PROTESTS HELP IN A CERTAIN WAY
RIGHT TO A CERTAIN EXTENT
BUT WHAT CAN I DO TO NOT ONLY SAY
I DON'T WANT THIS AND I DON'T STAND FOR THIS
BUT HOW CAN I GET REALLY CLEAR
ABOUT ACTUALLY CONTRIBUTING TO BUILDING SOMETHING BETTER RIGHT
THOSE ARE TOTALLY TWO DIFFERENT ENERGIES RIGHT
PROTEST IS MORE ABOUT FOLD
IT'S MORE ABOUT SAYING THIS ISN'T RIGHT
THIS ISN'T OKAY AND FAIL SAYING THIS ISN'T WORKING RIGHT
BUT IF YOU WANNA CREATE SOMETHING NEW
FORESEE IS GONNA HELP YOU KIND OF DETERMINE INTUITIVELY
WHAT YOU CAN CONTRIBUTE TO
TO BUILD SOMETHING NEW AND THAT'S WHAT WE REALLY NEED TO DO MORE OF
RIGHT
SO FORESEE
DISTINGUISHES BETWEEN WHAT YOU WISH COULD HAPPEN
AND WHAT YOU ACTUALLY SENSE IS POSSIBLE
FOCUS IS ANOTHER STABILIZING GRAVITY POINT
AND IT NARROWS YOUR ATTENTION TO WHAT'S MOST IMPORTANT
AND ACTUALLY WITHIN YOUR CONTROL
SO IT HELPS YOU EXAMINE YOUR SITUATION CLOSELY
AND DECIDE WHERE TO DIRECT YOUR ENERGY
SO IN THIS SCENARIO YOU CAN'T FIX SYSTEMIC OPPRESSION RIGHT NOW
WHICH IS WHAT YOU EXPERIENCE WITH THE SURRENDER AND GRAVITY POINTS
BUT FOCUS HELPS YOU ASK
WHAT CAN I INFLUENCE WHAT'S IN FRONT OF ME RIGHT NOW TODAY
WHERE CAN I ACTUALLY DIRECT MY ENERGY TO CREATE THE CHANGE
THAT I HAVE ENVISIONED
SO FOCUS CREATES THE ABILITY TO STOP
SORT OF SPINNING IN A SENSE OF OVERWHELM
AND IT NARROWS DOWN YOUR ATTENTION
SO THAT EVENTUALLY YOU CAN IDENTIFY THE NEXT RIGHT THING TO DO
THE NEXT GRAVITY POINT IS FORETELL
AND FORETELL IS ANOTHER EXPRESSING GRAVITY POINT
SO IT HELPS YOU EXPRESS NOT JUST YOUR CURRENT FEELINGS
BUT IT ACTUALLY HELPS YOU TELL THE STORY OF WHAT YOU WANT TO HAPPEN
SO THINK ABOUT FORETELL AS THE GRAVITY POINT THAT HELPS HARMONIZE
RIGHT YOUR INTERNAL VISION WITH YOUR EXTERNAL COMMUNICATION
SO YOU TAKE YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR FEELINGS INSIDE
AND FORETELL IS WHAT HELPS YOU SAY OUT LOUD
WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN AND WHAT YOU WANT
SO AFTER SEEING THE DISTURBING FOOTAGE
MAYBE FORETELL SHOWS UP AS TEXTING A FRIEND
YOU KNOW SAYING SOMETHING LIKE
DID YOU SEE THIS I'M DEVASTATED
SO I WANT TO ORGANIZE SOMETHING
LIKE IMAGINE IF WE GOT OUR WHOLE COMMUNITY TOGETHER NEXT WEEK
AND ACTUALLY SHOWED UP FOR THIS
OR IT MIGHT BE SOMETHING SMALLER RIGHT
IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE BIG
IT COULD JUST BE HAVING A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR PARTNER OR YOUR CHILD
OR A FRIEND OR A FAMILY MEMBER
WHERE YOU DESCRIBE EXACTLY WHAT YOU SEE FOR THE WORLD
AND WHAT IT WOULD LOOK LIKE IF
YOU KNOW
THINGS WERE ACTUALLY BETTER
SO FORETELL IS A REALLY POWERFUL GRAVITY POINT
AND IT HELPS US UNDERSTAND THAT WHEN WE SAY SOMETHING OUT LOUD
OR WHEN WE WRITE SOMETHING DOWN
AND WE PUT OUR THOUGHTS TO WORDS
WE REALLY ARE STARTING TO CREATE LIKE THE BABY SEEDS OF REALITY
SO MY HOPE IS THAT WE ALL LEARN TO USE FORETELL
TO SPEAK WHAT WE HOPE FOR INTO EXISTENCE
NOW FAVOR IS THE NEXT ONE
AND THAT'S THE GRAVITY POINT
THAT CLARIFIES YOUR INTENTIONS AND HELPS YOU IDENTIFY YOUR PURPOSE
SO SPECIFICALLY IN THE GRAVITY POINT METHOD
WE FOCUS ON WHAT WE LOVE RIGHT
WE DO THINGS OUT OF LOVE WE DO THINGS BECAUSE WE LOVE
SO IN THIS SCENARIO AFTER PROCESSING WHAT YOU'VE SEEN
FAVOR IS GONNA HELP YOU ANSWER THE QUESTION
WHY DO I WANT THINGS TO BE DIFFERENT
WHAT DO I LOVE THAT'S BEING THREATENED HERE
SO IN THIS SCENARIO MAYBE YOU COMPLETE THIS SENTENCE
I WANT THIS VIOLENCE TO STOP
BECAUSE I LOVE JUSTICE AND DIGNITY FOR ALL PEOPLE
I WANT TO TAKE ACTION
SO THAT FUTURE GENERATIONS DON'T HAVE TO WITNESS THIS KIND OF HARM
SO FAVOR YOU KNOW
THIS IS KIND OF LIKE IN THE POPULAR CULTURE
LIKE KNOWING YOUR WHY FAVOR IS ABOUT KNOWING YOUR WHY
AND WITHIN THE GRAVITY POINT METHOD
OUR WHY IS ALWAYS ROOTED BECAUSE WE LOVE SOMETHING RIGHT
LIKE WE ALWAYS COMPLETE THAT SENTENCE
I AM DOING THIS OR I WANT THIS BECAUSE I LOVE X
Y AND Z
SO FAVOR MAKE SURE THAT YOUR INTENTIONS
ARE ROOTED IN SOMETHING THAT YOU GENUINELY LOVE
NOT JUST PEOPLE PLEASING OR ACCOMPLISHMENT OR YOU KNOW
A SPECIFIC OUTCOME
IT REALLY ROOTS US IN THAT POOR UNIVERSAL ENERGY OF LOVE
NEXT THE STABILIZING GRAVITY POINT OF FRIEND
THEN HELPS YOU IDENTIFY THE SUPPORT AND THE RESOURCES THAT YOU NEED
AND IT REALLY MOTIVATES YOU TO REACH OUT
SO IT CREATES THE IMPULSE TO BOND WITH OTHER PEOPLE
OR EVEN WITH OBJECTS THAT YOU MIGHT NEED RIGHT
LIKE IF YOU NEED CAR OR YOU NEED A PEN OR YOU NEED WHATEVER
IT'S IT'S WHAT HELPS US ATTACH TO OTHERS AND OBJECTS
SO MAYBE AFTER SEEING THE DISTURBING FOOTAGE
FRIEND HELPS YOU ASK OR ANSWER RATHER
YOU KNOW LIKE WHO COULD SUPPORT ME IN TAKING ACTION
SO YOU'RE GONNA IDENTIFY LIKE THE RESOURCES THAT YOU NEED
OR A PLAN TO REACH OUT FOR CONNECTION OR SUPPORT
SO
MAYBE YOU REALIZE YOU NEED TO CALL A FRIEND WHO'S ALSO BEEN AFFECTED
OR YOU JOIN A GROUP THAT'S ALREADY ORGANIZING
OR YOU HELP COORDINATE LOGISTICS FOR
YOU KNOW WHATEVER ACTION THAT YOU YOU WANT TO REALLY TAKE
SO FRIEND IS WHAT MAKES SURE THAT WE ARE NOT DOING THIS ALL ALONE
RIGHT FRIEND IS WHAT HELPS US TEAM UP AND FIND PEOPLE WHO RESONATE
AND FIND PEOPLE WHO HAVE THE SAME VALUES
BECAUSE DESPITE KIND OF LIKE THIS MYTH OF THE SOLO GENIUS
OR THIS MYTH OF THE SOLO ACTIVIST
THE TRUTH IS THAT EVERY SINGLE PERSON ON THIS PLANET
WHO MAKES A DIFFERENCE ONE THAT MAKES A SIGNIFICANT ONE
IS ALWAYS WELL CONNECTED TO OTHER PEOPLE
EVEN IF THEY'RE SORT OF ELEVATED IN SOME WAY
SO FRIEND
MAKE SURE THAT YOU'RE ABLE TO SORT OF PULL IN THOSE CONNECTIONS
FOSTER IS ANOTHER STABILIZING GRAVITY POINT
AND IT'S WHAT HELPS YOU ORGANIZE YOUR RESOURCES
SO YOUR TIME
YOUR ENERGY AND YOUR MONEY AND DEVELOP A CONCRETE PLAN FOR ACTION
SO IN THIS SCENARIO THAT WE'RE WORKING WITH
FOSTER IS GONNA HELP YOU SORT OF DETERMINE WHAT TIME
ENERGY AND RESOURCES YOU ACTUALLY HAVE AVAILABLE RIGHT NOW RIGHT
SO IF FRIEND IS ABOUT CALLING IN MORE RESOURCES
FOSTER SORT OF SAYS OK
THIS IS WHAT I HAVE NOW AND WHAT AM I GONNA DO WITH THIS
IT IS ALL ABOUT CREATING AN ACTION PLAN
SO
MAYBE FOSTER SHOWS UP AS BLOCKING OUT TWO HOURS ON SATURDAY TO ATTEND
A FUNDRAISING EVENT
OR MAYBE IT MOTIVATES YOU TO SET UP A RECURRING DONATION
OR DRAFTING AN EMAIL TO SEND TO LOCAL REPRESENTATIVES
LIKE FOSTER IS WHAT TAKES ALL YOUR RESOURCES
AND DEVELOPS AN ACTUAL PLAN OF ACTION
YOU'RE NOT DOING IT YET
BUT FOSTER IS WHAT KIND OF BRINGS TOGETHER EVERYTHING
SO THAT YOU CAN BEGIN TO NURTURE NURTURE NURTURE A NEW PLAN
FLOWER ALLOWS YOU TO PRACTICE YOUR ACTION PLAN
SO IT'S LIKE A REHEARSAL GRAVITY POINT
SO YOUR BODY CAN ACTUALLY EXPERIENCE
WHAT IT MIGHT FEEL LIKE TO ACTUALLY EXECUTE THAT PLAN
SO IN THIS SCENARIO YOU MIGHT IMAGINE YOURSELF TAKING THAT ACTION
RIGHT SHOWING UP AT THE RALLY
SENDING THE DONATION MAKING THE PHONE CALL
AND FLOWER IS GOING TO HELP YOU NOTICE HOW YOUR BODY RESPONDS
TO IT
CAUSE YOUR BODY AT THE END OF THE DAY IS THE THING THAT HAS TO ACT
RIGHT LIKE
YOUR BODY IS BOTH A TEMPLE AND ALSO YOUR SOUL
VEHICLE FOR EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO ON THIS PLANET
IN THIS REALITY IN THIS DIMENSION RIGHT
SO FLOWER IS WHAT HELPS YOU FEEL IN YOUR BODY LIKE
AM I CAPABLE OF THIS DOES THIS FEEL GOOD
IS THIS ENERGIZING OR MAYBE IT DOESN'T FEEL GOOD
SO FLOWER IS WHAT ALLOWS YOU TO INHABIT YOUR LIFE
AND IN THIS CASE WHEN WE'RE MOVING THROUGH THE METHOD
FLOWER IS GONNA MAKE SURE THAT YOU'RE ON BOARD WITH THE PLAN
THAT YOU'VE CREATED BEFORE YOU EXECUTE IT
WE'VE GOT TWO MORE STABILIZING POINTS TO GO
SO FIGHT IS THE SECOND TO LAST STABILIZING POINT
AND THIS IS WHAT GROUNDS YOU ON YOUR CHOSEN PATH AND GENERATES LIKE
COMMITMENT AND DETERMINATION
IT HELPS YOU COMMIT TO ACTUALLY FOLLOWING THROUGH
IT'S LIKE STRENGTH THAT'S REALLY WHAT FIGHT IS
SO IN THIS SCENARIO FIGHT IS GONNA ASK YOU YOU KNOW
WHEN AM I GONNA TAKE THIS ACTION
WHAT MIGHT TRY TO STOP ME
HOW CAN I HANDLE THOSE OBSTACLES
WHAT DO I NEED TO REALLY BE STRONG ABOUT
SO MAYBE YOU IDENTIFY THAT EXHAUSTION MIGHT PULL YOU AWAY
SO YOU SET AN ALARM AND YOU ASK YOUR FRIEND TO PICK YOU UP OR YOU KNOW
MAYBE SELF DOUBT WILL CREEP IN
SO YOU WRITE YOURSELF A REMINDER OF WHY THIS MATTERS
FIGHT IS ALL ABOUT BEING CLEAR ON WHAT YOU'RE COMMITTED TO
AND DEVELOPING THE STRENGTH TO STAND YOUR GROUND
AND TO STAY THE COURSE EVEN WHEN IT'S HARD
AND I'VE SAID THIS IN PREVIOUS EPISODES
BUT I'M GONNA SAY IT AGAIN
FIGHT IS NOT ABOUT DESTROYING
FIGHT IS NOT ABOUT BEING AN AGGRESSOR
FIGHT IS NOT ABOUT FIGHTING AGAINST SOMETHING
THE HEART OF FIGHT ENERGY IS ABOUT BEING VERY CLEAR ON WHO YOU ARE
WHAT YOU'RE MEANT TO DO
AND THEN STAYING ON THAT PATH WHEN THINGS PULL YOU AWAY FROM IT
SO WE FIGHT FOR NOT AGAINST
FINALLY WE GET TO FULFILL
AND FULFILL IS THE GRAVITY POINT THAT IS STABILIZING
AND ALLOWS YOU TO ACTUALLY TAKE THE ACTION
SO THIS IS ABOUT DOING STUFF RIGHT
SO YOU SHOW UP YOU FOLLOW THROUGH
YOU PRODUCE THE RESULT FULFILL IS ALL ABOUT RESULTS AND PRODUCTIVITY
SO FULFILL ACTUALLY ALLOWS YOU TO EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF ACCOMPLISHMENT
SO FULFILL CREATES COMPLETION
IT LETS YOU LEARN FROM WHAT YOU DID
IDENTIFY WHAT YOU'RE GRATEFUL FOR
AND INTEGRATE THE EXPERIENCE
SO THAT YOU'RE BETTER PREPARED THE NEXT TIME
A TRIGGERING SITUATION SHOWS UP
SO IN THIS TRIGGERING SITUATION
YOU MIGHT ACTUALLY ATTEND THE RALLY AND YOU FEEL LIKE
OH ME BEING HERE MATTERED
AND I'M SO GRATEFUL TO NOW BE AROUND PEOPLE
WHO ARE FIGHTING FOR THE SAME THING THAT I AM
OR YOU MIGHT MAKE A DONATION
AND THAT
IMPACT THAT YOUR MONEY IS MAKING FEELS REALLY GOOD AND FULFILLING OR
YOU KNOW NOT OUTSIDE OF THIS SCENARIO
IT MIGHT BE AS SIMPLE AS CLEANING YOUR APARTMENT
SO THAT YOU FEEL BETTER AND DON'T FEEL AS DRAINED
SO THAT YOU CAN CONTINUE TO SHOW UP RIGHT
ACTIONS DON'T ALWAYS HAVE TO BE REALLY LARGE AND LOUD AND COORDINATED
SOMETIMES
THE MOST POWERFUL THING YOU CAN DO IS FIGURE OUT HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF
FEEL BETTER AND FEEL MORE EMPOWERED
AND FEEL MORE HOPEFUL AND FEEL MORE CAPABLE
SO THAT YOU CAN CONTINUE TO LIVE IN THIS WORLD
AND CONTRIBUTE YOUR BEAUTIFUL POSITIVE ENERGY
SO THAT IS ALL OF THE 20 GRAVITY POINTS
MOVING FROM SURRENDER TO STABILIZATION
AND WE LOOKED AT THAT IN RELATION TO ONE SCENARIO
SEE HOW MANY DIFFERENT KIND OF FEELINGS
THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS ARE TRIGGERED JUST IN ONE SITUATION
LIKE THIS IS WHY I NEEDED A BIGGER MODEL
LIKE OUR STRESS RESPONSES NEEDED TO BE EXPANDED A LOT
SO THAT WE COULD BETTER UNDERSTAND THE TOOLS THAT WE HAVE TO REALLY
ENGAGE WITH OUR LIFE IN A MORE
FULL AND COMPREHENSIVE AND COMPLETE WAY
NOW IF YOU'VE ALREADY DOWNLOADED THE FREE GRAVITY POINT GUIDEBOOK
IN THE SHOW NOTES LIKE YOU MAY HAVE ALSO NOTICED LIKE I SAID
THAT WE JUST MOVE THROUGH THE GRAVITY POINTS IN THE EXACT ORDER
THEY'RE ACTIVATED WITHIN THE GRAVITY POINT METHOD
FOR STRESS RESOLUTION AND THIS IS BY DESIGN RIGHT
I LOOK WORKED REALLY REALLY HARD TO FIGURE THIS OUT
THERE IS A CERTAIN ORDER THAT YOUR SYSTEM WANTS TO MOVE THROUGH
THE GRAVITY POINTS OF THE STRESS
RESPONSES IN ANY GIVEN SITUATION
AND THE METHOD GUIDES YOU TO DO JUST THAT
SO HERE'S THE BIG TAKEAWAY OF THIS EPISODE
GRAVITY POINTS
OR STRESS RESPONSES ARE THE TOOLS THAT YOU HAVE TO MANAGE YOUR LIFE
THEY'RE EMBEDDED INTO YOUR SYSTEM
IDEALLY YOU'RE ABLE TO ACCESS AND USE ALL 20 OF THESE RESPONSES
WHENEVER YOU NEED THEM CAUSE YOU SEE
LIKE EVEN JUST HAVING A REACTION TO SCROLLING ON YOUR NEWS FEED
AND JUST THINK ABOUT HOW MANY DIFFERENT THINGS THAT WE SEE
ON OUR NEWS FEED RIGHT
LIKE EVERY TIME THAT WE ARE EXPOSED TO NEW ENERGY
ALL OF THESE 20 STRESS RESPONSES ACTIVATE
AND THEY'RE REALLY THERE SO THAT YOU CAN USE THEM
BUT THE THING IS IS THAT MOST OF US DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO ALL OF THEM
AND THAT'S PARTIALLY BECAUSE WE DIDN'T HAVE THE MAP AND THE MODEL
AND NOW WE DO
BUT THIS IS ALSO BECAUSE ALL OF US EACH HAVE PREFERRED PATTERNS
OF RESPONSES TO STRESS AND THIS IS LIKE SUCH A SIDE NOTE
SO BEAR WITH ME BUT I JUST HAVE TO ASK LIKE
HAS ANYONE WATCHED K POP DEMON HUNTERS AS MANY TIMES AS I HAVE
SO IT'S BEEN IN THE TOP 10 FOR MONTHS AS OF THIS PODCAST
SO I KNOW IT'S NOT JUST ME
SO IF YOU HAVE NOT SEEN K POP DEMON HUNTERS
LIKE WATCH IT NOW AFTER THIS EPISODE
BECAUSE ONE OF THE REASONS I'M OBSESSED WITH THAT MOVIE
AND I THINK IT'S SUCH A POWERFUL
LIKE PIECE OF ART THAT IS FACILITATING INTEGRATION AND EVOLUTION
LIKE PART OF THE REASON I'M OBSESSED IS BECAUSE THEY REFER TO QUOTE
PATTERNS THAT WE ALL HAVE
AND THEY TALK A LOT ABOUT THE SHAME THAT CAN COME FROM THEM
SO IN THE MOVIE
THESE ARE ACTUALLY LIKE PHYSICAL PATTERNS MARKED ON THE SKIN
AND THEN THEY KIND OF GET DEEPER AND IT'S ABOUT DIFFERENT THINGS
BUT FROM MY PERSPECTIVE I WATCH THIS MOVIE AND I'M LIKE OH
THEY'RE TALKING ABOUT STRESS PATTERNS OR
YOU KNOW
THE LANGUAGE I USE IS THEY'RE TALKING ABOUT GRAVITY POINT PATTERNS
SO GRAVITY POINT PATTERNS ARE ACTIVATIONS PROFILES
SORT OF PROFILES OF THE 20 GRAVITY POINTS
SO YOUR GRAVITY POINT PATTERN IN ANY GIVEN SITUATION
HIGHLIGHTS WHICH POINTS ARE REGULATED
WHICH ARE OVERACTIVE AND WHICH ARE SHUT DOWN
AND ALL 20 OF THEM ACTIVATE DIFFERENTLY IN EVERY SITUATION
SO SOME ARE REGULATED SOME ARE OVERACTIVE
SOME ARE SHUT DOWN SO
THIS PATTERN
ACROSS THE GRAVITY POINTS
IS ACTIVATED EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU ENTER A SITUATION
AND THESE PATTERNS DON'T COME OUT OF NOWHERE
THEIR RESPONSES
WE'VE LEARNED TO USE OVER AND OVER AGAIN BECAUSE EARLY IN OUR LIFE
WE LEARNED THEY'RE SAFE
AND NOW THESE PATTERNS
THEY DEFINITELY CHANGE ALL THE TIME IN EVERY SITUATION
SO
YOU MIGHT ACTIVATE ONE PATTERN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER
BUT A TOTALLY DIFFERENT ONE IN RELATIONSHIP TO YOUR BOSS
SO THAT WAS ONE OF THE BIGGEST REALIZATIONS IN MY RESEARCH
YES WE DEFINITELY HAVE
TRAITS AND CHARACTERISTICS
THAT MIGHT LEND ITSELF TO PERSONALITY PROFILES
BUT WE DON'T USE THE SAME PERSONALITY IN EVERY SITUATION
IT'S ENTIRELY DEPENDENT ON THE CIRCUMSTANCES
SO THAT WAS ONE OF THE REASONS I DID MY DISSERTATION RESEARCH
AT THE VERY BEGINNING IT WAS A QUESTIONNAIRE
TO EXAMINE WHAT I NOW CALL GRAVITY POINT PATTERNS
BUT I DON'T REALLY WANT TO GET TOO FAR AHEAD OF MYSELF FOR NOW
I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW
IT'S IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND THE 20 GRAVITY POINTS
AND TO GET TO KNOW YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH EACH OF THEM
SO WHICH ONES ARE VULNERABLE TO BEING OVERACTIVE
WHICH ONES TEND TO SHUT DOWN
AND I'LL ACTUALLY USE MYSELF AS AN EXAMPLE HERE
I WON'T GO INTO ALL 20 POINTS
LIKE KIND OF WITHIN MY DEFAULT PATTERN
OR LIKE WITH MY TRAUMA PATTERN THAT I WORK ON
BUT I'LL JUST FOCUS ON TWO OF THEM REAL QUICK
SO I LOVE TO NURTURE GROW AND DEVELOP THINGS
I'VE GOT LIKE
60+ HOUSE PLANTS IN MY APARTMENT RIGHT NOW AS A TESTAMENT TO THIS
SO THE FOSTER RESPONSE IS ALL ABOUT DEVELOPING
SO WITHIN ME AND WITHIN MY BODY
MIND RELATIONSHIP SYSTEM FOSTER IS EASILY INTEGRATED
LIKE IT'S REALLY ACCESSIBLE TO ME
SO I'M VERY QUICK TO JUMP IN AND HELP
SUPPORT AND IMPROVE ANY GIVEN SITUATION
BUT MY FLEA RESPONSE
NOT SO INTEGRATED
VERY EASILY INTERRUPTED AND SHUT DOWN
LIKE VERY VERY MUCH SO
SO THE FLEA GRAVITY POINT IS THE ONE THAT LETS YOU DEPART RIGHT
AND WALK AWAY AND LEAVE SITUATIONS WHEN THEY'RE NOT WORKING
FLEE ISN'T ABOUT ABANDONING RESPONSIBILITIES OR RELATIONSHIPS
IT'S ACTUALLY ABOUT GIVING YOURSELF ENOUGH SPACE
TO FIGURE OUT HOW YOU ARE MEANT TO FEEL
AND HOW YOU ARE MEANT TO THINK
AND HOW YOU ARE MEANT TO ACT
WITHOUT BEING SORT OF ENMESHED AND CONNECTED WITH SOMEBODY ELSE
BUT A LONG TIME AGO
I LEARNED THAT CREATING DISTANCE AND SPACE FOR MYSELF WAS DANGEROUS
SO IN SOME CASES
IT MADE PEOPLE UPSET WITH ME WHEN I SORT OF TOOK MY OWN TIME
OR TOOK MY OWN SPACE OR LEFT THEM TO THEIR OWN DEVICES
AND IN OTHER SCENARIOS
IT ACTUALLY FELT LIKE IT MADE OTHER PEOPLE MORE VULNERABLE
BECAUSE I WITHDREW MY PROTECTION
RIGHT AND LIKE THEY WERE IN DANGER THEN
SO THIS MEANS IT'S NOT VERY EASY FOR ME
BECAUSE THAT PATTERN WAS REACTIVATED OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN
WHERE FLEE SHUT DOWN SO NOW AS AN ADULT
IT'S NOT VERY EASY FOR ME TO LEAVE SOMETHING OR SOMEONE ALONE
YOU KNOW
SO IT'S TOUGH TO GIVE MYSELF SPACE AND AUTONOMY WHEN I AM TRIGGERED
I'VE BEEN DOING THIS WORK FOR A LONG TIME
SO IT TAKES A LOT FOR ME TO HAVE A SHUT DOWN GRAVITY POINT
BUT STILL LIKE IT STILL HAPPENS
SO I HAVE MY OWN GRAVITY POINT PRACTICE THAT I'VE NEVER STOPPED
I DO IT EVERY MINUTE OF EVERY DAY
IT DOESN'T MATTER THAT I'VE BEEN DOING THIS WORK
IN ONE FORM OR ANOTHER FOR ALMOST 15 YEARS
WHEN I ENCOUNTER A TRIGGERING SITUATION
AND I HAVE KIND OF THAT INTERRUPTED TRAUMA RESPONSE
I USE THE EXACT METHOD IN THE FREE DOWNLOAD
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